When you are getting married, it is a very personal commitment that you are making to the person you love and with whom you want to spend the rest of your life. On such a sacred and memorable day, it is only natural that you would want to express your love in a way that only you can, and writing your own wedding vows to exchange in front of all of your friends and family is a great way to do this. Writing your own wedding vows can seem a bit intimidating at first, but once you lay out your plan you should have no problem speaking from the heart.
I personally have seen a very wide variety of wedding vows performed ranging from really simple terms of endearment to grand spectacles that involve the wedding party. I have even seen a coordinated dance routine that involved special music and the groomsmen holding lit wedding sparklers through the whole thing, but that type of occurrence is quite rare. No matter if you want to go big or small with your wedding vows, there are plenty of great tips that will keep you headed in the right direction.
- Always try to right your wedding vows from the heart. Your wedding is going to be a very special day and you will be sharing it with the person you love most in the world, so saying exactly what you feel inside is the best way to go. It can seem intimidating at first, but just remember that you both share an incredible love and it should help you embrace the moment rather than shy away.
- Don’t try to be too clever with your words, everyone knows you’re not a professional poet and they won’t expect a masterpiece. If you happen to be a world-class poet, all the more power to you; but you may end up making the other person feel bad if they aren’t as good with their words. The most important thing is to be honest and really pour your true feelings out there for everyone to see. Keep your words short, concise, and meaningful to have the best wedding vows possible.
- Brainstorming can really help you get the most out of your wedding vows. One of the biggest mistakes most people make when they write their own wedding vows is that they sit down and start writing without any sort of a plan. By the time they get half way through writing, they are having second thoughts about their vows but keep going anyway because of their time investment. It you sit down and come up with ideas ahead of time, you can put things in a logical order and end up with much more meaningful and elegant sounding vows.
- Keep things short, sweet, and right to the point. During your brainstorming, you’ll come up with several “bullet points” about your romance. Make each point short and to the point and avoid going on and on using too many descriptive words. You can say a lot in a very short amount of words when speaking from the heart, so focus on letting everyone in the room know exactly how you feel and avoid the blustery speeches that will make everyone bored.